I could ramble on with the details of this forever, but ill try to make it as short and too the point as possible.
I’ve had the oppurtunity to work with a russian exchange student from work, who happened to be a stunning and fun girl. Being single myself, i instantly took a liking to her, and asked her to hang out.
After the first two times out, she had really carved a special place into my heart, and i really liked her a lot. I tried to talk to her about my feelings and that i wanted to get in a relationship with her, but she has this sarcastic funny personality and would only respond with unclear answers. For ex..
When i told her i liked her a lot, she responded with:
“of course, how could you not like such a cool girl like me!”
and when i asked her about dating and being boyfriend and girlfriend, she responded….
“sure, who wouldnt want to date such a cool russian girl like me, you are such lucky guy.”
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so i just assumed that meant she wanted to date me too. But after about a another 5 more nights out, (and note we spent almost every day doing something.. this is all in a like 12 day period so far) i started to feel like she was just using me. Intimacy is an important part of a relationship for me, and after 8 nights together and out in like 12 days, she hadn’t even presented a hint of an oppurtunity that she wanted to kiss. We even spent one night alone in her room for 3 hours talking about sexual words in each other languages, and i could have swore i would have had at least been given a chance to make a move and kiss her, but she was closed as tight as a clam, and i dont want to be an asshole and just throw myself on her. Im not like that.
I tried talking about my feelings to her again, but she kept responding in an unclear way, that really has me left wondering how the hell she really feels. I feel in some ways she really only does like me as a friend… but i want to like her more then a friend, and as i said, her answers are unclear, so i feel she may really like me as well, but maybe shes just inexperienced and not ready for an intimate relationship.
To make matters more complicated, shes only here for 2 more months. Now, im not stupid, i knew before i asked her out that i would only get to date her for 2 months, but like the old saying goes, “better to have loved, then not have loved at all” and i definately deemed her worthy of loving, even if for a short while. I know she doesnt have a boyfriend back in russia as we talked about that, but i just really can’t figure her out…
Perhaps she is just a user, which once again makes the situation much more complicated, as i know she definately an attention whore, and shes a huge cocktease to myself, as well as to other guys at work. It bothered me at first she was flirting with other guys, but considering she goes out with me at night, and we undoubtedly spent more time together, plus the fact i dont even know how she feels about mr, i don’t really care about that anymore. I know shes not doing anything with them, because like i said, shes really reserved about intimacy….
The point comes down to this. Even though she’s here for 2 months, i would definately want to date her for the remainder of her stay, and show her a good time. I just feel though it may be a trap, and ill jsut be used. Im not going to commit my time and more importantly, money to her, if she’s not really into me. A guy needs loving you know… especially when dishing out money and time for a girl he likes. but i just can’t pry her feelings out of her. I told her how i feel, but i feel the communication barrier might cause a disconnect or misunderstanding (as her english isnt too good)
In the last week, i really tuned down our hanging out, as like i said, i felt it wasn’t going anywhere and i dont know how she feels about me. More importantly, i don’t want to be used, which i feel might be something she is possibly doing.
Im happy with just being friends, if that’s how she feels, but like i said, i don’t know how she feels…. in short, what do i do here with this girl!? How can i get her to tell me how she feels, without her being sarcastic or jokingly funny…
And call me an asshole, but if worse comes to worse, and granted im still single end of summer, i figure her last day or two here, im just going to buy a bunch of liqour and snacks, maybe a movie, and get her boozed up. Something good should happen….
But thanks for your answers. help me out please!
