Student Exchange Programs

This is going to sound really ridiculous for some of you but I’m hoping I can get some form of advice here.

I’m currently taking swimming lessons on a private basis from 2 instructors, and I’m close to one of them, or at the very least I feel close to him just because we get along just great and we’re only one year apart. We’ve exchanged phone numbers and e-mail addresses and we also went out to get a quick bite but this was only because he wanted to thank me for a gift I’d gotten him from abroad where I had a race. Anyways, we don’t call each other or e-mail unless it’s for business-related matters.

We’ve known each other for a few years now but I’ve only started taking lessons from him about a year ago, so that’s how we got to talk a lot more.

I understand that he is only my coach and that this professional relationship will never change, and I also understand that these private lessons are on a one-on-one basis so of course during this time the student taking the lesson will be paid attentioned to. My concern is that I feel like we click so well that I confuse it as friendship. Sometimes I find myself wishing we could talk more but it’s like I have to warn myself to snap out of it. It’s so funny how I’ve been having nose problems and am now going to have to go through surgery when I find out that his dad just went through a nose surgery. He would tell me about these things and it’s not a laughing matter but I think what a coincidence.

I was taking his other free class, which I love taking, but I’ve been trying not to go and have been trying to lessen my time being around him. It’s been pretty hard for me but I’m wondering if I’m doing the right thing. I’m trying to limit my time with him so that I only see him for 30 min a week for private lessons and am praying that my feelings will somehow fade eventually. What do you think?