Student Exchange Programs

I work with a very attractive european exchange student. I usually don’t even go for these types of girls, most of the very pretty (by societies’ standards) women I have met have very ugly personalities, but once I got to know I found out she was a very nice person and treated me much nicer than any other ‘hot’ girl I have ever met. So I asked her out and got rejected. She has talked to me about what she likes in a man and I have come to find that she is very shallow and has very high standards. For her a guy has to:

1) Wear fancy clothes all the time
2) Be very muscular and fit
3) Shave armpits and chest (I think this is kind of weird, who wants to date a guy who looks like a little boy)
4) There are other things but these 3 stick out in my mind.

She has only ever seen me in a suit once. I could stand to lose about 20 lbs. and I DO NOT shave my chest or armpits. I guess she keeps guys like me around for when she needs something.

She would never say this to me but she probably thinks I am very ugly even though she says she considers me one of her best friends (I have helped her with many of the obstacles in settling into life in the US). She has asked me before on my opinions of how women look and she thinks I have a strange view because I find a very broad spectrum of women attractive. I have told her that i thought she was beautiful. I cannot even believe I still want to be with a girl who thinks like this. I have always gone for the average or ‘plain’ (beautiful to me) looking girls because they are sweet and down to earth (not always true, just a generalization). Now I am attracted to this girl who seems to only be interested in looks and social status. She really is a nice and sweet person, she is just very shallow when it comes to picking men (she has had some bad boyfriends as a result).